I've been married for 3.5 years, and my husband's brother has been married for 6.5 years. My SIL does bridal hair and works together with her friend, who is a makeup artist. I’ve always been interested in beauty, but never pursued it because I was working too much and I didn’t really believe in myself.

In November 2022 my SIL (the wife of my husband's brother) suggested that I should start as a makeup artist and that she wanted to work with me, because she was "done" with her friend. She spoke quite poorly about her. My SIL wanted to follow a course for hair extensions, and after her friend found out, she took the course herself and started practicing it for a while. She also often said that her friend charged her €5 per client because my SIL was using her electricity. She also mentioned wanting to buy tiaras so that her bridesmaids could either rent or buy them from her, and then suddenly, after her friend heard this, she went out and bought tiaras herself and started renting them out on her own account. My SIL also said her friend would often cancel on clients last minute claiming she was “sick” even though she wasn’t.

I felt bad for her, and since I’ve always had an interest in beauty, I agreed to work with her. I invested in a workroom for us, spending hundreds of euros, and arranged a few models so we could do their hair and makeup for our portfolio. My SIL told me that starting from September 2023, she would no longer work with her friend and apparently told her not to book her anymore (they shared a online calendar but had separate Instagram accounts).

However, I noticed that in September, October, and even December, she kept working with her friend. I messaged my SIL asking whether she still intended to work with me, since she was still posting pictures of bridesmaids with her friend. She told me she did want to work with me, but that her friend kept booking her (that’s what she says, anyway).

A few months later, the same story repeated. She strung me along for months.

In February 2025, I suddenly saw that they had cleared their separate accounts and opened one joint account. I got chills because I realized she never intended to work with me and that I was apparently the only one with sincere intentions.

A few days after their post, I was visiting my in-laws and she came in later. I was sitting at the table and she sat down without greeting me, so I didn’t greet her either.

It’s now April, and ever since they launched their joint account, we saw each other on several occasions but we haven’t spoken to each other. I ignore her and she ignores me. She even told people I’m the one who treats her wrong.

AITAH for not greeting her that day (at my in-laws)? She acts like I did something wrong to her and it makes me uncomfortable. It’s really awkward when we run into each other because we used to be so close, and it’s a shame that things ended up this way. I do want to say something to her but I’m kinda tired that I’m always the one who starts the convo.