My little brother and his wife (25M and 23F) are coming to visit for three weeks. They live in a different country and I haven't seen them for two years. They got married August of last year and my fiance and I were unable to attend for various personal reasons. So its been a while since we've all been together and everyone is very excited.

Unfortunately there has been some conflict around where my brother and his wife will be staying on night one. My parents live about an hour away from the airport. I live 20 minutes from it. They are expected to get into town from a 22 hour travel day at around nine at night. Last week I called him and said they are more than welcome to spend their first night with me (and any other time they wish while they're visitng). With how close we live to the airport he could call when they land and I could be there by the time they pickup their checked bags, they could be asleep within 90 minutes of landing. If the jet lag is bad they have plenty of space to move about without disturbing anyone. We have a three story house with multiple spare rooms, plenty of entertainment systems, and with my fiance traveling for work during the week I'd be the only one here. I reiterated that it was up to them but he identified the problem immediately; our parents. He said they wouldnt like it at all and I agreed, but he said he really liked the idea. I told him it was up to him to have that conversation with mom and dad. I ended up seeing our parents later that day so I decided to prep my mom by telling her I offered them an open door policy to stay with us whenever they liked. Her response verbatim was "that will not be happening under any circumstances." Shocked by her abrasiveness I responded with "well thats not really up to you. They are adults. They are married. Its their choice. You and dad also got to spend a lot of time with them for the wedding where I haven't even seen them in years." She backed off a little but recognized our house would be a much better fit for them. My parents have a 1500sqft ranch home. My mom works from home and her office is steps away from the guest room which only has a full sized bed. My dad is retired so he's home a lot and always up at 4 in the morning. They have two very cute but very rambunctious dogs and routinely have to build a barrier in front of the guest bedroom door to keep them from scratching at it. I didn't verbalize any of this and we changed topics after that. But I could tell my offer to them rubbed her the wrong way.

Fast forward to yesterday, the day before my bro and sis in law leave. I text him and tell him to let me know what they decide, I'll be around and available. He says they'll decide en route which makes total sense to me. Couple hours later my mom calls and says "so about tomorrow and picking them up from the airport..." but I cut her off and say "ya I talked to him and told him just to let me know when they get here." Her response was "that won't work for us. We have to know whats going on." To which I again reiterate, it's up to them. Again, we change the subject.

Now its the day they are arriving. I haven't spoken to my brother as I know travel days can be hectic. My dad texts me and asks if him and my mom can come hang at our house while they wait for my brother to arrive so they'd be close by. And I kind of want to tell them no, I'll either pick him up and bring him here where he'll spend the night, or you can go directly to the airport from your house and hope there's no issues and delays.

While they are visiting we are giving him a car to drive. Its a car we are planning on selling to payoff some debts before we get married, but we've intentionally held onto this vehicle for an extra two months with the sole purpose of them taking it while they visit. Additionally, parents were able to spend three weeks with them during their wedding last year. During this time I stayed at my parents house to take care of their pets. And I think its worth mentioning that when my brother would come home for leave from the military he could spend however many nights at friends' houses as he wanted without my parents ever putting up a stink. So I feel like I've been a team player for everyone and am blown away I'm being met with so much resistance over one night. I haven't responded to my dad, but would i be the asshole if I said they couldn't come hang out if it means I won't see my brother on the first night he's here?