Hi Reddit, I (19F) have two close friends (also 19F) I've spent nearly every day with during our first year of university. Recently, they've started to distance themselves from hanging out. One (let’s call her Diana) joined a sorority and got busy, and the other (Alice) has been going through mental health struggles. I’m a major overthinker, so I tried not to stress. We all share a Life360 group, and I noticed they were hanging out at Diana’s dorm, something we rarely do. I’d been asking to hang out often, but kept getting a no. When I asked why I wasn’t invited, they didn’t respond and changed the topic. Then Alice turned off her Life360 location altogether two days later, which felt even more off. I reached out asking if I had done something wrong. They both said no and reassured me everything was fine, Diana even said to reach out anytime I’m upset. That helped, even if I still felt weird about it. A month or so ago, Diana mentioned maybe going to her hometown for an upcoming holiday, but said it wasn’t certain. No updates were given after that. Then this past weekend, I saw a Snapchat story of Diana and Alice in a car together. I checked Life360 and they were two and a half hours away. It hit me, they had gone to Diana’s hometown without telling me. I asked in our group chat what was going on. They said they assumed I went home since I didn’t reach out. But I’m from out-of-state, and flying home isn’t cheap. I would've left Wednesday if I were going home because i have no classes Thursday(something they both know). They left Thursday afternoon. I explained I thought it was just an idea not a plan and apologized for the miscommunication, but shared that I was hurt they didn’t check in. Diana got defensive, saying she always planned to go home and just offered the idea to whoever was interested, Alice apparently accepted. I apologized again and emphasized that I wasn’t trying to blame, just explaining how it felt. I got no response. The next day, I privately messaged Diana to check in and clarify that I wasn’t calling them bad friends, just trying to express how I felt. Still no reply. A few days later I texted Alice about a clothing order we had placed tg and let her know I’d give her and Diana some space. She replied quickly and asked me to pack up her stuff she keeps in my dorm. I did. Now, with two weeks left in the semester, I don’t see this getting fixed. Thinking back, they’ve both been rude or given me attitude but brushed it off as “jokes” yet if I ever joked the same way, I was told to “shut the fuck up.” I think I’m done with the friendship. It hurts because we were so close all year. I still keep wondering, am I the asshole for not reaching out?