I (19f) and my bf (18m, will be 19 in a month), have been together for the past six months and a bit more. We knew each other since HS but didn't really interact until we graduated and then eventually started dating.

I got accepted into a university in another city, the closest one to my hometown, since my hometown didn't have the subject I wanted to study, but he stayed in our hometown. This all happened before we started dating.

From the start we knew that our time together would be limited, since I had already moved for school, so we agreed to text and call daily and then spend as much time together as we can in holidays and on weekends.

Since the place I'm staying at doesn't allow us to have people stay over for more than a week per month, I decided that I'm gonna be the one who moves between cities so we can spend time together, since he doesn't really like using public transportation.

Here's the deal though: I'm struggling financially since I haven't been accepted into a job yet and I have two other siblings at home, so my allowance is limited. I wouldn't say my bf is rich, but he's very comfortable financially and he has his own apartment in our hometown.

Since the second semester started I have more free days so we can spend more time together, however my grandpa is very old and sick so sometimes I have to take care of him when my parents have to go to a trip for their work. I never complained about that, my grandfather basically raised him and I'm glad I can help him.

However, every time I have to go he just starts sulking up and bringing the whole mood down. I've tried to explain to him every single time that my family needs me sometimes and I have to go to help, but he keeps saying he feels like we don't spend enough time together and that I should make an effort to be with him more.

It really makes me feel bad and I'm also sad when we have to separate, but what am I supposed to do? Give up on my studies which I worked hard for to achieve, or give up on my family? I understand that since he stays alone he gets lonely super fast but it's eating me up on the inside. Besides, I already spend around 40€ and 16hrs a month moving back and forth from the city I moved into to my hometown just to see him.

We're very in love with each other and breaking up is out of the question, I just don't know how to make him understand that I can't spend as much money as him and that I have some responsibilities outside of him as well. He's a very nice, very good guy and I know he's not doing this to guilt-trip me. I already spend most of my free days with him, stay at his place and barely see my family.

Excuse me for the length of this post and any grammar mistakes, English is not my first language. So, AITAH? What should I do, how can I arrange things in a way that will satisfy both of us? I can provide further information if needed.