📝 AITAH, for not telling my boyfriend I added a guy?

By RudeReplacement1730 • Score: 1 • April 20, 2025 5:19 PM


Context: Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 months and had talked maybe a week before dating ( we are both teenagers ). Also, we have hung out once with a mutual friend because my mom is a little scared of us hanging out alone when he is an hour away, we saw each other almost two hours and we had a lot of fun.

Okay, so me and my boyfriend have had our ups and downs we argue like any normal couple does,( as in disagreeing here and there ), we always work it out together and talk about it and we are very good at communicating our boundaries and what will lead till this not working out. Knowing this I had called a guy who I used to see almost as a brother who is about a year older that my boyfriend, I had unadded this guy we will call Caleb for his privacy, because I was being petty during an argument with my boyfriend. One day though, my boyfriend phone hangs up after he fell asleep because it over heated, and about 20 minutes later I add Caleb and text him about my relationship and how much I love Sal ( fake name ) and how good it is going and explaining why I unadded him with no context at all. We called for about five minutes, and If I am being honest I don’t remember why, or what we talked about, but I unadded him after we called and never told my boyfriend about it, leading him to think that I was being secretive and maybe even un loyal to him with Caleb. However, he is willing to resolve this and let me build our trust back because according to my boyfriend, “love is giving your partner a knife and hoping they won’t stab you, and when they do you pull the knife out let it heal, and give them the knife one more time”. Love it never easy, and I have acknowledged that what I did could seem suspicious and cheater like, I have apologized countless times, but it has even got to the point to where he said that my ex-best friend ( storytime? ) who tried to RUIN our relationship, who said “Izzy feels trapped and is going to try to leave soon”, that he feels she is telling the truth over me. My take on it is, we are long distance and I could leave fairly easy if I wanted too, and obviously I have not said that out-loud or to him, but AITAH?

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