Okay posted about this a bit earlier but got so much hate and I had left out key details in a hurry. Also to add I’ve never cheated on my fiancé.

So, back in college (about 7 years ago), I (f) was just casually sleeping with a few different guys. Honestly, it felt pretty normal college stuff at the time.

There was this one night I was with this guy, let's call him "Guy A," for the first time. Things were fine, but when it was over, I was just ready for him to leave. He was pretty drunk, so I texted another guy I was also sleeping with then, "Guy B," to come help me get him out of my place. Turns out, Guy A and Guy B were actually good friends, so Guy A left super easily. And yeah, Guy B ended up staying, and we hooked up again.

Fast forward to now, and get this, I'm engaged to Guy A. They're still good friends, and my fiancé has absolutely no clue that Guy B and I used to be intimate. We hang out with Guy B and his girlfriend pretty regularly.

Here's where I'm wondering if I'm the AH. Sometimes when Guy B and I have had a few drinks, we flirt. It's always when we're drunk, we don't flirt at all when we're sober. It's usually just dumb jokes and stuff, but it still makes me feel a little weird.

Then (2023), New Year's Eve, my fiancé (Guy A) got totally wasted and went to bed early during a party we were throwing at our apartment. I stayed up with the people who were still around and leaving, and eventually, it was just me and Guy B left. We went into the game room to turn off the music, and we were both pretty drunk. As soon as we got in there, he locked the door behind us. His girlfriend had been at the party but left earlier because she was mad about something, and he stayed.

In the game room, he starts bringing up our college days and then asks me if I still have the scars on my chest. He only knows about these scars because he's seen me naked. I immediately shut that down and told him he needed to go home. I knew it would escalate, like he was trying to get me to take my shirt off or something.

We still see him and his girlfriend, especially during football season since we all watch the games together. Recently, during one of these games (early 2025), another guy in the group kept grabbing my butt. My fiancé just kind of blew it off and doesn't want to talk about it. But Guy B actually texted me afterward, apologizing that he didn't realize what was happening even though he was right there, and he seemed genuinely concerned about how I was. Honestly, it made me feel like Guy B cared more about what happened to me than my own fiancé did. EDIT::: to add since the grabbing but from random friend, my fiancé has found every excuse to not have sex with me.

So, AITA for:

Keeping it a secret from my fiancé that I used to sleep with his friend? Letting the drunken flirting happen with Guy B? (We don't flirt when we're sober we’re actually pretty awkward) Feeling like Guy B has been more supportive than my fiancé lately? Would it be okay if I just don't tell my fiancé about our past but we cut Guy B and his girlfriend out of our lives completely?