Me (F28) and my husband (M28) work in the same industry after meeting at university doing the same tech degree. In my current job I earn an average salary (slightly above average for my age) in the country we live whilst my husband earns a lot more (80th percentile). Based on my salary we brought a little house before we got married that I could afford to contribute to 50/50. We now fully share finances which has made me start to feel bad that I’m not “pulling my weight” though my husband has never mentioned this, he has encouraged me to be more ambitious in my career. I’m pretty frugal so had no issues living on my current salary and try not to spend money I haven’t earned from the joint income.

My current job has a lot of benefits: great pension, 2 days WFH, nice colleagues, nobody really supervising us, good holiday (34 days) and crucially is very easy and stress free (I work 8-4 and never need to stay late). The problem is the work isn’t the least bit challenging and there’s no real progression, most people there are hanging on until retirement doing the bare minimum and I’m there screaming out for more work to get through the day. I pretty much filled my time 50/50 working and wedding planning. I’ve recently done some interviews for other roles and I was struck by how little valuable experience I got from my current job I could talk about in but also how good I have it at my job.