Me and Gf have been dating each other for a few months know. Known each other for the better part of a decade. GF has some fairly recent past trauma. A year and a bit ago. Constantly brings it up in conversation, which I understand, it's a big part of her life and I've been doing my best over the last year to try and help. But recently I've been trying to really connect and understand how she feels about it as it's brought up multiple times a day. I do know what happened in the past but am unsure how she feels and what she's feeling when she talks about it. I ask for clarification on exactly what she means when she says it's different from other situations, as it can be rather vague. I'm usually met with "you aren't an active listener" or "you just cant understand". I was trying to understand tonight and got hit with all that. It's frustrating. I was trying to express how I feel about the situation. Was trying to say "it's annoying that I try to understand and connect with you" but she hung up right after I finished the word annoying. Thought it was an accident as we both have hung up on each other by accident at times. Tried calling back but no answer. Then got a message. Saying she doesn't need to be called annoying and misinterpreted. And that her expressing her feelings isn't a personal attack on me. I'm not good with texting and believe these kind of conversations should be done in person/spoken. What should I do? Thank you