I'm a 26F and my husband is 28M. We've been married for 2 years and are expecting our 1st baby in the end of October. I don't really have a normal functioning family. My mom took her life 4 years ago, my dad and I don't get along. I'm a only child so I consider my husband's family as my family. I invited my mother in law to be in the delivery room immediately when we told his family that we are expecting. We recently found out that our baby has a positive marker for Patau Syndrome. Which is really upsetting to hear, especially when my husband and I are both really healthy and young. Once we got the news, I told my mother in law the next day (which was this week on Wednesday). She seemed empathic at first. After I told her the news, she sented me a lengthy text message this morning telling me that "She feels bad for us and that she's praying for us, and that she'll definitely be there to help me get through this." She then sented another message saying "She's praying that we have a healthy full term baby in the future. In which she'll be more happier to attend that birth intead." I took offense to it. Just because this baby most likely won't live long doesn't mean their birth will be a burden. It doesn't mean we can't celebrate bringing a new life into this world. I haven't told her yet, but I'm not even sure if I want her in the delivery room. Am I the AH though if I stick with my decision?