I (25F) recently moved away from San Diego, and part of the reason was because I felt like I was outgrowing a lot of my friendships. I realized that many of the people I was close to didn’t really “get” me. They never understood when I was being sarcastic or really anything about my personality. It often felt like I had to perform or be a curated version of myself to be understood. Like you know those friends who are like “omg you seem like the type to” and it’s like the complete opposite of your personality.

Since moving, I’ve felt a huge sense of relief and i’ve been slowly trying to disconnect from these friends. I feel bad as they have done nothing wrong. However they keep messaging me to plan things and I just feel like it’s hard to distance myself. I don’t want to explicitly say this as it’s rude. I don’t know if I should continue trying to slow ghost or just be honest. Either way I feel bad. Am I being an asshole?