I don't post often so I'm sorry if the formatting is weird. I (21yrs) and my sister (35yrs) currently both live under my parents roof because of financial issues (I having lived here, her moving out at 21 and returning with her family last September). And to put it kindly, my sister is quite the hoader. She is currently going through her storage unit to clear it out and asked if me and my parents would help. I don't know if this is relatable, but I'm the kind of person that doesn't like to sweat and do physical labor without knowing at least a day in advance especially on my off days. It's just a personal thing that I try to make others aware of so I get more of a heads up, and while I vaguely knew she was doing some storage unit stuff this week from my dad, I wasn't asked until the day of (today.) So I very politely try to tell her no thank you, as I didn't plan on sweating today and I just honestly didn't want to. She and my parents then spend 15 minutes bribing me and begging and trying to guilt me. "it'll so much faster with 3 people" "you're always sitting around" "you never give in when we ask for help" When they say these things to me it makes me even more reluctant to help, like i want to stay planted where i sit and not move or talk. I dont know how to describe it, its like an anxious reaction. i think it has to do with them kind of berating me as a kid and accusing me of not trying (I have adhd), but I'm going to therapy for it so that's kind of irrelevant. I just don't want to leave out any details that makes it seem like I'm trying to sway you guys in any way, I know I'm not an angel, but I want it to be clear I'm trying my best.

What I'm trying to say is that I do help my sister with her hoarding, i cannot count how many times I've gone to her house as a kid with the intention of hanging out and ended up going through her entire garage and basement and cleaning because her husband won't help and she needs a second hand. I've done so much labor for her, and I don't think she owes me anything for it, but her agreeing with my parents saying I never help really stung. I dont know, maybe I am wrong for not jumping up and helping out because I want to relax? I really can't tell if they're making me feel like an asshole or if I am one. I want an honest reaction from you guys, and if you have any questions or need any clarifications please lmk. i just want the truth, and sometimes it's hard to tell what that is. Thank you in advance friends <3