Abuse tw is there because there is threats in this story

(story takes place in winter, quite a few years back) So me, my mom, dad, sister, brother, grandma’s, and my uncle went on a road trip to South Carolina to visit my long distance cousin (who is said uncles child, we will call her Kayla) because we hadn’t seen her in a long time. My uncle has road anxiety, especially on bridges, which was a big part of the 12 hour drive we needed to take. The way there was somewhat okay, but the problem really started near the end of the trip when he became quite irritable and not really wanting to spend time with us, only with Kayla, which was odd but not that big of a deal.

This is all really off of memory, so what I remember is we started driving and it was dark out (31st of December atp) and he really made it clear that he wanted to be home for new years, which was valid, but not when he started to be violent about it. He was acting weird while he drove (heaving breathing, violent-ish language, and he honestly seemed intoxicated to some extent.) We took a pit stop at a gas station, and my mom went to the window to talk to my uncle (I was the only one in the car). My mother says “Where is the charger?” because she needed to charge her phone for gps, for some reason this makes my uncle mad.. He gives her the charger and rolls up the window, as soon as shes gone he says “where’s my gun?”. what the fuck? This sounds like a threat towards my mom (HIS SISTER) and it scares me, I was young at this time and it really shook me up. He also got home after new years, and was LIVID. I don’t remember anything after that

hes not allowed at our house to this day, this event spiked conversation about how most of the family thinks that hes psychotic and honestly belongs in a mental hospital, I refuse to speak to him more than I need to when I need to see him but we try not to see him. I refuse to hug him at all, and I honestly want him out of my life entirely. Is this a bad thing? Am I also in the wrong?