Hi everyone! Me and my boyfriend are in a relationship for 3 years now, let's call him Sam.

This Wednesday was my turn to do the dishes. I had a long tiring day at work, got off until 8pm and didn't eat anything for the whole day. I told him about it, cooked some food for us but didn't have the energy to do the dishes, so I told him I'll do it tomorrow. Thursday comes, this time I get off work at 10pm, without eating anything again for the whole day (I start my shifts at 9am). I was dead tired so I offered to order food for us and told him that really this time I'm dead exhausted but that I'll do it tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, which is Friday, I wash them as promised. That day he tells me that we need to talk. He tells me that leaving the dishes is a deal breaker for him and that work is no excuse and that I need to put in more effort. I told him that I always do them when it's my turn ( I really do, he had no objections with that) it's just this time, I really hard days at workw that I really had no energy left. He proceeded to tell me that I was just playing the victim card. It's no excuse he goes to work to and wants to be able to cook when he comes back, that if I can't promise that I can't do more effort our relationship is done. I told him that I already do put in a lot of effort, that I always do them when it's my turn and even many times it's his turn and I'll do them, this time I was really dead tired. He told me that he doesn't care about the past he's talking about the future that I really should stop playing the victim card and that he doesn't care about the circumstances, the only exception is if I'm sick and can't get up. I didn't agree with him, as circumstances are important, it's not Just being sick that can be a reason and the past too, because the fact is that I always do them when it's my turn, he is aware that it's not like me. This week was really hard for me at work. He told me that I don't understand his point. If I don't agree sith him it means we're not compatible and that out relationship is done.

AITAH ? Also any advice is welcome. Thank you in advance <3