Hi, I'm a 40-year-old F and my husband is 42 years old. He has a son who is special needs but high functioning. My husband lives on the E Coast while I live on the W Coast. His son has two aides, one is Monday-Friday from 4pm-8pm and a weekend aide from 9am-5pm.

My husband has had issues with two-weekend aides previously overstepping with his rules. He found one my husband and his son likes.

That's not the issue. I've met every single aide that has stepped foot in the house. My husband calls, facetimes and texts me through out the day.

Well, this new aide they both like sounds like a nice person. She challenges his son to be independent. But he started to act weird with me when this aide is there.

He won't call, he will take hours to reply and now he will face time when she leaves for the day. I haven't met this aid at all and I've pointed out his actions.

He disregards my feelings and tells me I'm overthinking. At first I said maybe I am and he continued with the same actions. I brought it up to his attention yet he continues to say its just me.

She had a family emergency so she was gone for two weekends. He continued with him calling, texting and Facetiming me through the two weekends.

Well now I'm guessing she came back to work as his son's aide. She called him so he stepped away and muted me as I was on Facetime.

Once again I asked if he was not going to be available this weekend. He replied with I'm not sure why you ask me that?

So em I the AITAHfor thinking something is going on or am I overthinking?