I am in NC and my grandparents passed away without a will. There are 6 children that their house would go to; my father passed away so his part would go to me and my 2 brothers. My aunt used my grandmother’s money to pay off the mortgage and taxes on the house and had a life insurance policy on her as well. My uncle (her brother) has been living in the home since 2020 when my g-ma passed away. They both have been collecting rent from renters since then…

A few months ago we found out that she was trying to get the house signed over to only her. *This was after finding out that she went to Mexico and paid someone there to put their Mexico home in her and another uncle’s name.

She went so far as to visit a third uncle while he was in the hospital and promised him money if he signed it over to her. But excluded us from any conversation or information regarding what was going on and did not list us on the document for the transfer of the property and lied to her lawyer about having another brother (my dad).

My brothers and I met her to speak about our request for her to buy us out and she came up with all the reasons why we would owe her money for updates and taxes… and told us that she can’t pay us and if we go through court then we would be undoing all the hard work my grandparents did in buying their house. I’m financially okay (like I can get by paying my bills) so it’s not about the money for me but just the overall disrespect and manipulation that has happened over the past 5 years.

My brothers and I have a lawyer and understand our rights so I’m not looking for advice on that end.. but im feeling a little guilty? Am I the asshole for “fighting over money” and potentially undoing what they worked hard for?

sorry for being a little all over the place but there’s so many details that play into the situation