Six years together. He lives 2 hours away and I travel to him most weekends (he works long hours) often taking my teenage kids. We both wanted a LTR from the outset. He very reluctantly discussed living together but admitted after 4 years that he had lied and preferred our weekend arrangement and became vague about future commitment. We argued about the imbalanced effort in the relationship. He goes days without phoning and won't even call when I'm ill. I had to cancel plans as my kids' father had a suspected second heart attack. The younger was alone with him for the first one so was quite traumatised. I turned to my partner for support but he just sent a dismissive text saying I hope he’s ok and have a nice weekend. He attended a party that evening and sent a quick text to my younger child the following day. He didn't even ring us. He is emotionally cold, resists any attempts at discussion, often ignoring my texts for days if he is angry. He ignores me and the kids at social events and would monopolise any conversation in his own language which I tried to learn. I spent several holidays completely excluded from socialising. My child had major surgery and was in ITU and when I shared my emotional memory of this he stated "drama queen" ....a typical cold reaction. My car was swiped by a lorry travelling to him…with my kids in it…he barely woke up …it was evening….and said the next day he thought he’d dreamed it! He expected us to spend Christmas and Easter with him and when I wanted my kids to have this Christmas in their own home it caused a huge argument and despite being invited he refused to travel to us. I have put my all heart and soul into this relationship as did my kids....he has barely contacted them since we've had a break. They loved him as a step dad and have been left upse his behaviour. We've invested so much in him... friends and family tell me to leave. I know I probably should? Join the conversation