So, I smoke weed nd have been friends with this guy nd he comes over sometimes to smoke with myself and my housemates. Let’s call him T. After hanging out with us for a while, T and my housemate, let’s call her M, begin courting. It’s very much in the early stages.

For context, T sometimes asks me for the rest of my weed when he is low, and offers to give me back double the amount.

It was really sunny in the UK and I invited him over as usual to smoke up. Before coming, T texted M that he was going to pick up (marijuana) before coming. I had my own 3.5 i just picked up myself. T comes over and says i’m feening can I roll. I hand him the pack and this man smokes pures (pure weed, no tobacco mix). I personally can’t hack it this way bc my throat is weak af, so he rolls for himself, about a gram/gram & a half of my supply nd smokes w my flatmates. I invited him over so I didn’t really mind having my supply rinsed, but this is where the dilemma starts:

T asks, after smoking, if he can take the rest of the pack. I say no bc it’s my only 3.5 nd i just picked up. He says he’ll get me back but I then said I’d rather the cash so I can just get some more straight away. T replies, “you could have just said that”. He goes on to ask me to name a price. I told him I bought mine for £30, mid level cali & so I said £25 since I asked him over ygm. He scoffs at this and I look at him weird. Like I’ve just explained what I bought it for and you want me to sell it to you at a loss????

Note: He buys usually in the pound region, so he gets it for a lot cheaper than I will at street prices because I will literally smoke it all at once if I buy in higher quantities.

He asks again then for me to name a price again and M answers, £12 as a joke and T goes yeah yeah cool. Runs w it. I’m sitting there like what am I actually supposed to do with this information?? Out of respect for both of them I leave the room and say “You can keep the weed and the money the disrespect isn’t worth it.” T & M are trying to call after me but I just wanted to collect my thoughts. I leave my phone downstairs and when I come down after about 20 mins ish, T is leaving. He says “I’ve sent you money and I’ve left the pack.” In response I’m surprised & say back to him “well at least take the rest of the weed -“ and he declined. He then left.

Over the next couple of days, I hear from M that T keeps going over what happened to her, and doesn’t understand why he sent money. She tried to explain it to him but he was relentlessly talking about the money he sent regardless. M asked me to send it back but at the time I had no communication from T at ALL about this so in my mind: - T disrespected me to my face. - In attempt to impress M, T sent me money + weed and I take this as apology as literally no other words were spoken apart from him asking us if we wanted in on his next order. - T asks indirectly for the money back & offers no other offer of apology or acknowledgement.

Therefore, if I give the money back, all I’m left with is disrespect…

He then comes to me a couple of days later after M tells me she’s told T to leave it and things are good. I then get a text from T asking if I want to smoke up and I assume it’s chill. Then he asks why he sent me £30. As if it hasn’t been explained to him 50 times already. I reiterate clearly on text and M + T are texting at the same time. M suggests she calls him and forces us to talk to each other. I’m greatly vexed and tell her it’s not a good idea. She calls anyway. I’m trying to explain, give him time to process what the issue is but he’s fixated on this money. Literally a fake apology would have fixed this whole thing.

Anyways, AITAH for telling him on the phone call that I’d rather donate his money to a charity of my choice? I don’t want his money, but I definitely don’t care about his bank balance if he’s going to disrespect me.