Hey guys this one's been weighing on me for a while. I'm 28F and I recently inherited a pretty sizable amount of money from my grandmother. She and I were incredibly close growing up. She basically helped raise me after my parents split up. I was the only grandchild who consistently visited her, took care of her when she got sick and handled her funeral arrangements. She always said she wanted to leave something behind to help me build a good life and she did exactly that. The thing is, I have two half siblings. My brother is 31M and my sister is 25F. They’re from my dad’s second marriage. We didn’t grow up together. Their mom didn’t really want me around after she married my dad and honestly, my dad was never super involved in my life either. Most of my upbringing was handled by my mom and grandparents. So I’ve always had a different relationship with the family.

When my grandma passed, it turned out she left everything to me. Her house, savings, jewelry…all of it. My dad was shocked and clearly upset. He assumed she’d split things more fairly among all the grandchildren. But my half siblings never really had a relationship with her. They barely visited, never called and weren’t around when she got sick. My half sister even told me once that she found our grandma boring. Now here’s where it gets tricky.

My half brother lost his job a few months ago and has two young kids. My half sister is trying to go back to school and money is tight for her. My dad and stepmom both called me last week, asking me to think about the bigger picture and do the right thing by sharing some of the inheritance. They said we’re family and that grandma wouldn’t want to see them struggle. But I’m torn. I feel bad for them. I really do. But the money was left to me for a reason. My grandma made that choice, knowing exactly what she was doing. I’ve worked hard to support myself my whole life. I put myself through college and was always there for her when no one else was. Why should I give up something she clearly meant for me, just because my dad’s other kids are going through a hard time now?

My mom told me to trust my gut and do what feels right in my heart. Some of my friends think I’m being a bit cold. And now my dad barely talks to me unless it’s to send some passive aggressive message. I don't know what to think anymore….