My cousin (F33) is a therapist in child psychology and was at our house for Easter. She brought her “daughter” to our house as well as her husband. When they first arrived everything was normal, but I realized that her daughter had gone to the other room to play on her phone. She is a trans identifying 9 year old that has been battling depression for 2 years.

I walked into the parlor because I noticed that she wasn’t having a good time and I had been in her position as a kid. We started talking about her and she opened up to me that she hates her identity as a female and her mother was making her do it since she was 4-5. I was stunned at first and thought this might just be a way for the daughter to get back at her mother for an earlier argument so I started asking her questions.

Turns out the story checked out and the timeline sounded correct to my knowledge and I didn’t think it was possible for a 9 year old to go into such detail, but they did. I walked back into the kitchen area and asked her mom to step aside and have a talk with me. She immediately got defensive about the subject and started hurling slurs such as “transphobe” or “moron” for listening to the child.

I ultimately thought there was nothing to do because she is a child’s therapist so no one would take my side so I kept it to myself. It wasn’t until everyone left and I saw them start to get in their car when I noticed my cousin punish her daughter for what I would assume was talking to me. She spanked them hard enough that I could hear the daughter scream from inside the house and they soon drove off. I called CPS that evening and reported the scene.

Long story short AITAH and should I keep calling the daughter she or call him he in private?