In late may, I was supposed to go to spain with my wife to visit her family.

My sister's birthday falls in the middle of the trip. I want to spend the day with her. Yesterday, I told my wife (before she buys the tickets) that I am not going on the trip and the reason why. She got super mad at me. She is now under the frequent assumption that I hate her.

She booked those days off already so it can't be changed because of me. We have a 10 month old daughter. She will be going on the trip, and I am fine with my in-laws seeing her in person for the first time. Unfortunately she got pulled into the conversation and my wife won't let me talk to our daughter for a week. This isn't the first time this has happend.

A part of me feels like this is my fault because my in-laws hasn't seen me in two years. I see my sister monthly. They barely know english though and I don't know spanish very well. I don't know what I should do right now. My wife still won't talk to me after the argument.