Okay so little context, my (23) younger brother (20) has been caught smoking weed for many years. It’s known he does it even when he says he doesn’t.

My family is extremely strict, to the point where I will be ridiculed for days for a simple mistake.

Today my parents went snooping through my room and found a sex toy. They decided to confront me about it and said how it’s disgusting and it’s wrong. I just said that it’s “not the worst thing in this house” and they asked what and I whispered “He has like a million vapes in his room this isn’t a big deal” they immediately dropped it and would’ve left it alone but my younger brother comes running out and says how I’m “so fucking weird” and admits to the fact that he’s still smoking.

All I wanted to do was take the blame off me and then say to my parents it’s not really what’s happening and he doesn’t smoke like how I’ve done before to get out of things. They don’t treat him any differently and it’s not like they don’t know he has smoked in the past. I don’t know why he came out and admitted everything or whatever but I tried to ask him why he wouldn’t just stay in his room and let me deal with it but he won’t talk to me and just laughs and says I’m “so fucking weird”.

I just wanted to not deal with my parents and my younger brother and I were relatively close. Now our relationship is ruined and he calls me a snitch. I know what I did was wrong but I was gonna fix it by saying he doesn’t actually do it and I was over exaggerating which has always worked in the past.

Am I the asshole? I know what I did was wrong but I never intended on him freaking out and admitting anything he still does.

I don’t know how to reconcile or if it’s even possible anymore.

EDIT: hes also told them i use edibles its not like hes never told them things i do either which adds to this whole thing. I know it was cowardice but we both have "snitched" on one another to save ourselves. Our parents usually let it go when we do that and we can move on without anyone being any wiser. They also DIDNT CARE he was smoking they just said "thought you stopped?" and then moved on from the conversation as a whole. It's not like he hides it well, he leaves them on couches for me to clean up to save him.

What i did was wrong, I feel bad for throwing him under the bus I was fed up with him telling my family I'm overdramatic for wanting to sleep after a night shift cause he had to clean the lawn. Theres a lot more to the story than just this.