I’ll try to keep this super brief but to sum things up I’ve been with my bf now going on 4yrs. Last year the day before my birthday I found out he had been crossing lines with a female friend of his through messenger. It was supposedly only texting and talking on the phone for a few months and not physical. I don’t know if that’s true but that’s all he would tell me. I wanted him to be transparent with his phone and show me more and he refused because he said I would just go looking for more problems. He also told me that his phone whenever it updates downloads old pics of his ex to his phone that are of her banging other guys that she sent to him after they broke up and that he was having a hard time getting them removed forever. Fast forward 7 months and we’re still together and have been much better but still having some trust issues. Easter night he proceeded to get drunk and angry and decided to overshare with me about his past and told me that I’m boring in bed and never want anything exciting like threesomes or anything exciting at all. He told me one of his best partners wasn’t jealous like me and allowed him to move an ex gf in with her and have threesomes on the reg and it was on of the best experiences he ever had. Also he proceeded to tell me the reason he even started sexting with his female friend that I found out about last year was because she was open to talking about the sexual things he liked and didn’t judge him. He also told me she would’ve been cool with going down on me while he watched and that he didn’t want anything sexual with her only to watch me be pleased. Either way it really hurt me and of course he back peddled the next day when we finally talked about it. Later that night I figured out his password on his phone and looked to see if he was still using messenger and to see if he still had pics of any females in his phone. I looked on his Google drive and found tons of pics of his last ex going down on him, videos of them having sex and just a bunch of nudes of her in general. I also found other women from years back half naked from his past. This pissed me off so much that he lied to me and said anything left in there would’ve been photos of her and another guy just to hurt him. So he had lied again. Now where I feel petty is that I deleted all of the sexual pics and videos permanently from the files and put his phone back where it was. Now I’m waiting for him to notice and when he does he will have to either be shitty they’re missing and wonder what happened to them or confront me and ask me if I did it. Btw he doesn’t know that I know his password now. I feel bad for snooping but also better now knowing the truth and that I got rid of them for good. So sorry for the long rant but AITAH?