By BasketballLegend1234 • Score: 2 • April 10, 2025 1:01 AM
I've been told to put it behind me, but it still hurts. I just keep going over the way that these people spoke to me and how it didn't seem like I really did have closure.
Person A ratted me out in January of 2023 for backbiting someone two months earlier, saying "I can't let you backbite," but a year later he was saying the n-word again (he is not Black) and making death threats behind someone's back. When I told the individual he threatened, he got upset with me and said "It was the past," without addressing the hypocrisy. He would always say to me not to worry with "You aren't Black" or "You aren't Muslim" (I'm neither, but not the point). During Ramadan, when I told him cursing is against his religion, he brushed me off. He once posted a nauseating remark about my family and me, and after I asked him to say it to my face, he blocked me. He once posted that I am a "fking bchass Chinese kid" then deleted the post. We reconciled last summer, but he spam slurs again, blocked me after I confronted him, and bullied me in a group chat. When another person mocked me for going to see a therapist, he laughed.
Person B beat me in a friendly fight in Grade 9 and would not drop it. I later posted a harmless picture of him (he laughed at that) but lost it when someone brought it up. He called me out on vaping, stalking, and others—none of which was happening. When I spoke to him about it, he insulted my grammar and threatened me. Once my parents intervened and reported the incident to the school, he laughed at me for "crying to mommy" and kept mocking me in Mandarin. He told me I was a bad influence on Islam, then swore freely throughout Ramadan. When I told him about family issues, he mocked my depression, gossiped about what I shared with him, and accused me of faking. When I mentioned that my mom cried over the things he said, he told me I was lying. When I went to confront him one last time, he blocked me. Then later randomly insulted me again, comparing me to P. Diddy and trying to start fights.
Person C and I had conflicts in 7th grade but became friends again in 9th grade, or so I believed. He warmed up to me and even spent time with me but then said "We were never friends" and mocked me for switching schools. He bragged to others that I switched schools because he bullied me (I tower over him by 6 inches) and justified gossiping about my past by saying, "Friends deserve to know what you're like."
I know it’s a lot, but it’s been hard to let go. I’ve tried moving on, but the way they treated me, dismissed my feelings, and spread lies still sticks with me. AITAH for still being upset about it?
TL;DR: Three friends of mine who used to be my friends deceived me, spoke racist nonsense, made fun of my mental health, shared confidential information, hurled insults, and laughed about my pain. People tell me I should drop it, but I'm still wounded. AITAH?
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