TLDR: My little sister is overweight because of my parents. My parents cooked a lot of food for Easter and she ate half of the dressing pan by herself. Every time she eats, she piles her plate high with no regard for anyone else. I spoke to her about eating habits and maybe getting help. Told her that eating all of the food and not leaving enough for everyone else is also not okay

I 22F have noticed something about my little sister 15F ever since I was around her age and she was about 8 or 9 and it’s that she eats entirely too much. I am well aware that this is my parent’s fault because my parents are responsible for her eating habits and what she consumes, but now her eating habits are starting to lean into selfishness

I knew I had to approach this with caution because commenting on someone’s eating, especially an impressionable teenager, can be tricky

My mom and dad cooked so much food for Easter Sunday. They cooked Saturday and we all ate together as a family Saturday and Sunday. My parents 53F 54M, my older sister 25F, me, and my younger sister

My older sister and I were staying two nights before leaving to go back to our houses and my mom wanted us to pack to go plates since they had made so much food

The next day, we noticed that there was a large… dent in the dressing pan. My dad doesn’t eat much because he is on diabetic meds, my mom would never take that much food in one sitting, and I knew my older sister didn’t, and I surely didn’t either

I said something to my mom because my mom is always saying how she wants my little sister to get healthier, but nothing she says or does works. Even if my parents cook healthy meals, she gets a heaping serving and refuses to put some of it back

She also refuses to eat if it isn’t something she likes. My mom will make chili, which is healthy. But my sister will want chili dogs loaded up with cheese and won’t eat if she doesn’t have that and then will get 3-4 chili dogs

I remember visiting once and cooked pasta. My little sister got enough for two people and when my mom told her to put some back, she added another spoonful and went to her room, so my mom told me to take the rest home with me and my sister flipped out when she realized I’d taken it

I also make a healthier buffalo chicken dip version using cottage cheese and low fat shredded cheese almost every time I visit and my mom told me once that she didn’t even get to try it because my sister ate THE WHOLE DAMN PAN! I calculated the measurements I used and the entire pan was a little over 2,000 calories

Anyway, with the dressing, my mom basically told my little sister she wasn’t allowed to have anymore because she obliterated half of it in two days by herself and the rest was going to be for my parents, and my older sister and me. She got upset and said it wasn’t fair

That night, I told her that her eating habits weren’t just concerning, but that it wasn’t fair for her to eat food up from everyone else. I told her that at her age, it is more important than ever to remain healthy. I told her that our dad is a diabetic because he ate poorly in his teens and 20s and I explained what diabetics have to go through and asked her if that was something she would want to go through and she said no

I then told her about heart issues and hypertension and told her about family members we have that also eat poorly that have those issues. But after that, I told her that if she feels like she has a problem with eating, to go to our mom and ask to go to therapy because she could potentially have a binging issue or a self esteem issue causing her to cope with eating and even though my parents should’ve been addressing this, her eating all of the dressing knowing that other people wanted some wasn’t okay

When she was younger, she used to barely chew her food and eat herself sick and throw up because she was so full. I need to note that she wouldn’t MAKE herself do it, it would just happen because she would eat so so much to the point where my parents stopped keeping snacks in the house

I just wanted to try to get through to her in a gentle way because I can only see this issue worsening and it’s a bit irritating coming around for family dinners and when they make enough for us to take home, we can’t even do that because my sister has eaten too many servings in the middle of the night