First post so please excuse any errors. So my boyfriend (28m) and I 24f) have this female friend(27f), we knew each other from a former job so she went through a break up and it took a toll but that was last year, and then she started dating this guy who turned out to be married, and who she had no business being with because he was a subordinate. So my boyfriend who still works with her discouraged it . The problem is that from the first break up she treated ny boyfriend like her therapist calling him at odd times for very long conversations. Then it moved to coming over for meals because she doesn’t want to be alone, at first it was okay but then it became too much for me because that meant going to bed late because we have to host most of the times. I even make sure to have dinner served early but still she ends up leaving late. So today i woke up really tired and because i had been holding it in for long i just blurted it out that I don’t want to hang out anymore. My boyfriend then told me that i was being absurd and asked why i was talking about things that were happening in the evening so early in the morning and said sarcastically “ so it’s been bothering you “ and a few rude comments about how he can go to her’s without me and a few others I don’t remember. Anyway i let it go and pretended that we were okay but i am still upset about it and honestly I can’t handle spending any more time with her. I am no saint because she is my friend too but i just can’t keep seeing her everyday. So now my boyfriend says i am being a bad friend. But part of me is questioning why he insists on having her over always despite my refusing . So am i the asshole?