For context my brother-in-law constantly calls me to give unsolicited advice. In my recent years I've put on a lot of weight ( baby, stress, age) and I've been trying to get back to being healthy.

He's always calling me telling me I'm not doing enough for his bother. I'm not cooking the right things, I'm fat now and quote "no one likes their woman fat" fold me these exact words. And then he's going on a pity party of how he's alone because he's divorced for the 2nd time, and he's been dating and everything hadls failed.

Easter weekend I lost it. I fold him a week in advance we were cooking a big dinner, doing and egg hunt (we have small kids) and just having family time. Extended the offer because it's family and his kids are grown and hardly spend time with him. He has a girl he's talking to and said she was more than invited. (This is the 3rd new girl in like 6 months. They have been together 3 weeks)

He said he'd be there. Come the night before Easter he calls hia brother. Suddenly we need to go to this girls house for her Easter party. Mind you, i had tons of food to cook as we had our adult children their partners coming. I could not cook, tend to our kids activities and the others coming over, and suddenly go to this person's home. Mind you we have not met her in person yet. He hasn't brought her to any get together.

I'm annoyed because we planned a time that worked for him. We planned everything for 2pm since originally he was doing something with her in fhe morning and they would come to our function after.

He fussed at me saying " she's all about family. It would have been nice if you showed up"

I was just shocked. We gave them a weeks notice. If she's about family then she should want to meet us, and this was the time. We don't know her I'm not packing up a family of 7 to a strangers house on short notice. And for family it's just her and her 13 yr old.

My brother-in-law and I got into it. He cries all the time that he has no family after the divorce. However, we invite him over all the time and this constantly happens. I'm starting to become sympathetic to my ex sister-in-law. If he talks to me like this, how did he talk to her in their marriage?

I told him. "I'm not packing up my family to go spend time with this girl after i told you everything I had going on. All the cooking and games were set. You are 3 people coming over here, I was not leaving this house Sunday."

And when he was like she's all about family so he had to be there.

"Fine, if she's all about family then maybe she would have taken the time to meet us all. So her family is more important to you, that is fine. You've only broken up 3 times in the few months you've been dating. So when you are alone again, I'm going to hear you complain that we don't do enough family stuff. Well here we are doing family stuff and you blew us off. I have small children egg hunting at 3 instead of noon so you could be apart of this!"

I'm getting sick of inviting someone in my home who speaks to me like this and blows us off for the next girl he's dating. Also, yes my husband has yelled at him for talking to me about my appearance. He doesn't speak for my husband. My husband tells me he loves me no matter what. I have had children I'm not going to look 20 anymore. So long as I'm happy and healthy he's happy. (I'm also down 12 pounds when his brother called me fat)