So. I (31F) am currently 8 months pregnant with our first child. My husband (34M) and I have been saving like crazy. We had about $12k put aside for baby expenses, maternity leave cushion, crib, diapers, hospital bills, etc.

Last week, I woke up and he was just gone. I called, texted, nothing. After 6 hours of pure panic, he finally calls and says he’s in Florida because his mom (who’s been sick for years) was “not doing well” and he wanted to be with her in case this was it.

Okay. I understand that. I do. But:

He didn’t tell me.

He left me 8 months pregnant, no car, no groceries, no support.

He spent $4,300 on flights, hotel, rental car, and “emergency family dinners.”

From the baby fund.

When I told him I was furious and scared, he told me I was being “heartless” and that “if it were your mom, I wouldn’t even question it.”

So I said, “If it were my mom, I’d have the decency to tell my pregnant spouse I was leaving the damn state first. Honestly, at this point, I hope she does die, so you understand what it feels like to lose someone you actually tell the truth to.”

Now? Everyone thinks I’m the devil. His sisters are calling me cruel, and even my mom said that was “a horrible thing to say, no matter the context.”

But I’m tired of being the “understanding” wife. He abandoned me, lied about the money, and pulled the martyr card.

So Reddit… AITAH for saying I hope his mom dies?