My husband and I (30s) have been trying to attend a weekly community game night. He had an appointment in town and suggested we both go together then go out for dinner and then the game night. I have ADHD and sometimes my thoughts spiral. Without explaining myself clearly I said no since the dinner and game night cost money and we're trying to save. I spluttered a little with my words and he told me to think about it.

This morning before work he asked me to let him know later what I wanted to do. I had a busy day and forgot. He reached out to me and asked me if we were attending game night. I said yes and that I would drive so he could drink. In my mind, I made the assumption that this would include the plan he suggest the other night. He would pick me up after work, we'd go to the appointment, then dinner and then game night. We didn't talk about it again.

As it was getting close to the time we had to leave the house and he still wasn't home, I called him. He said he was on his way to the appointment. I calmly and jokingly said that there must have been a miscommunication because of my assumption.

He got really upset with me that I didn't take full responsibility. I asked him why he didn't ask me throughout the day and he said he asked me in the morning and that should be enough. The conversation really escalated. I asked him to explain his thought when I said let's go to game night. To be honest I can't quite remember what he said but he was just upset that I wasn't taking all the blame. He said that I was being manipulative in trying to turn this around on him.

Im left so confused by this conversation and don't know if I'm the AH and it's all on me.