So, my mother in law got involved with a dancer that got caught with a large amount of coke. For 2 years my M.I.L. has been scheming a way to get custody of a 2 year old girl. At 60 she finally got her wish. On her birthday she didn’t ask, she told us that if something happened to her we had to take her. Like I said she didn’t ask, she told us. When I said no she turned to her daughter trying to manipulate us with guilt and said a bunch of crap about how her now deceased grandfather would be mad at her. Her grandfather loved the kid but he didn’t have to take care of her. Sadly he passed away of dementia and at the end needed full time care. My wife and I are on the same page. I’m done bailing people out of their bad decisions because lately I’ve been making good ones. I’m almost 40. If I would have wanted kids by now I would have one. I feel bad for the toddler but I refuse to make a commitment to raise someone else’s kid because she said so. Also nobody tells me what to do. My wife is non confrontational but it was making me mad that it took her 2 weeks to definitively tell her no. Her mom took it better than I thought she would because she tends to have temper tantrums when she doesn’t get her way. Then I went over a mutual friend’s house and she told him we weren’t taking her so then my friend started guilt tripping me saying sometimes situations happen when you need to do what’s right for the child. Here’s the thing, it’s not my child. If he feels so strongly about it he can become a godfather. Now she’s constantly asking us to babysit and I’m over it. My M.I.L. thinks we will babysit because she wants to bowl 3 times a week. I’m sure you all have seen what happens when even younger people have toddlers. They have no lives. My wife and I do not want kids and we’re not going to babysit anymore. I’m just going to leave this with something my dad told me in my 20’s “If you get someone pregnant, you’re on your own.” She wanted the kid, she got involved she can watch her. I may or may not be the asshole but what do you think? I’m curious.