Sorry for any mistakes, english isn't my first language. I (17f) have divorced parents (51f and 52m) and they share 50/50 custody, so that me and my siblings (18m, 14m and 11f- she's my step sister) spend one week at a parent's house and the other at the other parent's house. What I'm talking about is for what happens at both of my parent's house. They separated when I was around three and my mom got with my (ex) stepfather with who she got my little sister while my dad stayed single. Because of that, I often helped my dad around the house since I was a little kid so that he wouldn't worry about it (deep cleaning rooms- sometimes spending an afternoon or morning doing it, putting everyone's dishes away, doing the laundry, etc.), but helped less my mom since she often had boyfriends that helped her. Since I'm the only girl at my dad's house and was the only one who cleaned, you can imagine how dirty the house was. But, I have a thing with dirtyness and hate it with my whole heart. To me everyone else is dirty and if I don't clean the house it will also be dirty and idk it just gets in my head and I can't do anything about it. Since my mom is now also single, I also help but she still gets mad that I don't "help enough" and should do more while my siblings don't do shit. I vaccum, did the dishes when we didn't have a dishwasher yet, clean our cat's messes, and tries to help as much as I can but she still gets mad at me. And when I ask why can't my siblings help (when I'm busy) she starts yelling and saying she's gonna overwork herself to death and I'd be one of the reasons why, that I'm an awful daughter, that I'm useless, etc. But this doesn't make me wanna help her because she acts like I never do anything, or maybe she just doesn't see it? But when my little sister just put the table she praises her and says that at least she helps around the house, so idk if I really am the problem here. So both of my parents never aknowledge the efforts I put into helping cleaning the houses and saying I never help, while my siblings don't help at all and no one says anything. I'm thinking about stopping to help entirely with cleaning but like I said earlier I have this thing where I can't stand dirtyness and I know I'd end up cleaning anyway. Would I be the asshole if I did stop? I tried talking to them about it but they always brushed it off or never took me seriously. Any help/advice could be useful.