Hi, I 20 mixed race male /black and white and my 21 female Pakistani girlfriend have been together for 2 years and our relationship is going well. My friends who I’ve known since I was 12 (they are all white) have been a point of contention between us. They make racist, homophobic and sexist jokes which they label as dark humour. I’ve made same jokes in the past but I feel like that isn’t me anymore and I’ve matured past this humour and now know it’s wrong. These jokes have upset my girlfriend and on many occasions they have treated her badly and been rude to her. They have apologised but continue the behaviour. My girlfriend has cried to me and genuinely been upset about this situation. After they apologised they started to exclude her from group events. I would go last minute but even then I felt like they were excluding her. I brought this up to them last night however they argue that she has excluded herself from these things. Which tbh shocked me. They argue they need to stop being sensitive and their humour doesn’t define them as people and that she needs to “grow up”. I began to realise that this wasn’t an apology and just deflection of blame. They want to talk to her I feel like it’s a horrible idea. I think nothing good would come of it both parties have made up their minds on what they think. My gf refuses to make peace with bigots. My friends fail to understand the weight of words. I’m still in the middle of this not wanting to loose either. It’s true my friends say horrible things but I’m afraid of being friendless and alone. I don’t have any friends close to me like this people. My gf argues these people don’t respect me and if they did they wouldn’t say these things full stop. I’m still very conflicted and sad. I would appreciate advice on this, thank you. ‼️