Using an old throwaway as I’m not sure how much of an idiot I am. I’m a 47 year old male, based in Europe; putting myself out there after a decade of single pringle existence. I would be on the spectrum, and wouldn’t be used to direct online interactions as such. I am in need of some perspective from across the pond regarding a message I sent to a US citizen on a dating app.

Her profile blurb was cynical but it funny. I tried to match her energy in my message with references to her needs; her conditions for messaging (she would not be interested in not banal or boring) and her recent qualms regarding the recent issues implemented in-app regarding image censorship, of which she was staunchly against.

I made a cack-handed attempt at complementing her with ‘Big fan of candid, honest people who are the smartest person in the room.’ She was not impressed with this and stated she never wants to be the smartest person in the room.

But my last sentence ‘Fuck the banal, the boring and this rehashed patriarchy, I prefer to kill with kindness’ was met with downright hostilty.

I used this common, everyday idiom in reference to how I treat all the boring, banal messages I get from the fake and/or persistent profiles on the app, and she thought using the word ‘k i l l’ was way out of order. Well, I’m not really sure what she meant really. I didn’t have to chance to ask her, she blocked me.

I’m not sure how she took my last sentence so badly and after some reflection I thought I’d come to Reddit for some perspective.

So, I’m just wondering is it a cultural thing? Is that an idiom Americans don’t use anymore, or not familiar with? Her age was ambiguous, but she hinted at belonging to an older age-group similar to myself. She mentioned a preference for sapiosexuals and I assumed it meant well read. Maybe I was trying to too hard to impress? Or am I naive and insensitive? Or all of the above?

Thank you all for your advice.