I'm 29 and I've been with my partner for 5 years now. We've spoken about marriage a few times throughout the relationship but never the specifics about what we'd like for the actual wedding. We got engaged recently and we were talking about the wedding and guest list.

All of my close family have passed away (this is both parents, 4 siblings and then my two uncles and an aunt that I was really close to) and I have lost contact with most of my close friends. Due to this my guest list would be no more than 5 people.

I suggested to my fiance that we have a small ceremony with just us and a friend or family member each and then have a reception with everyone else or that we both invite 3-5 people to the ceremony then have a large reception.

I explained it would hurt for me to look out at a big wedding and be reminded of everyone I've lost. She refused this and said she wants everyone in her family and all of her friends there.

I tried explaining again why I suggested a big wedding but she didn't listen, she just said she should be able to invite who she wants. I pointed out the wedding is supposed to be for both of us yet she's acting like it's only for her.

I pointed out I've offered the compromise of having everyone at the reception but she again said no and just said I should be fine with her inviting everyone.

I asked why she thinks I should be fine with getting no say in the wedding that's supposed to be for both of us but she just accused me of being selfish and not thinking of her.

AITA for expecting us to compromise on the size of the guest list for our wedding?