I(F 27), and my husband (M 35), are happily married with one 4 year old, and one on the way. He is the love of my life, and he will literally do anything for me to ensure my family and I are happy.

We live in an area where we have no close family besides my brother in law and their girlfriend. (My brother in law is trans. Not sure if that's a relevant detail but for some reason I felt like I needed to add that in there). My brother in law was pretty much the only help we had when it came to our son, and they love our son so much. They really are a great uncle.

However, every time I hang out with my brother in law, they always seem to make a snarky comment about my husband. They would talk about my husband's appearance, things my husband does thay they find disgusting ( like his beard not being cut a certain way), and making comments about how my husband doesn't help me enough (which is literally not true, and my husband works so I can be a SAHM like I wanted to be). I'm starting to get tired of the comments. Today I told them I completely disagree and that my husband is an amazing father and partner. They are always so quick to apologize but why say it in the first place?

Ultimately, they are talking poorly about my son's dad and to me, that's not okay. My husband doesn't give two single fu**s about these comments because he says that it sounds like my brother in law can't stand up for themselves because they can't bring their feelings up to my husband, which just makes my husband lose respect for them overall. I wanted to tell my brother in law off, but my husband says not to because it wouldn't be fair to ruin the relationship between my son and their uncle. I'm thinking about just slowly distancing myself, and if it comes up again, to really tell them how I feel like my family is constantly being disrespectEd.