I (25F) and Husband (26M) have been married for almost 4 years now. We have 2 beautiful children 2F and 3 month M whom are quite litterally the loves of my life. My MIL (56F) was diagnosed with alzheimer’s about 2 years ago. I told my husband that we could take in his mother because I felt like there really was no other option as she has burned every bridge she has. She is divorced and hates my husbands father, her father could no longer handle her and all 3 of her sisters could no longer handle her care. We took her in about 9 months ago and I am almost at my wits end. We have periods of where things are fine and then randomly things will just be horrible.The most recent “fight” we got into was over her medication. My husband puts her night pills into a cup for her and she would just take them at her leisure. One of which is a sleeping pill. She would sometimes not take them till 2-4 AM and be up all hours of the night waking the kids up to use the bathroom ( she lives in our 500 square ft basement without a bathroom so she comes upstairs to use the restroom) and then be super cranky in the morning because she “didn’t sleep” (she wouldn’t take her sleeping pill till 4 am) so I asked her before she went to the bathroom if she took her pills and she said yes. I then saw her walk out of the bathroom holding her pill cup so I asked her again if she took her medication so which she yelled at me “FOR YHE SECOND TIME YES I TOOK MY PILLS” which then ensued into an argument. The next day when I went to take my children out for ice cream I did not ask her if she wanted to go out for ice cream just tried to avoid her because I was still upset about the night before and my sweet two year old asked if she wanted to get ice cream to which she responded “no i’m sorry your mommy won’t let me go” which sent me into a rage. I know it was not a huge deal but please do not bring my daughter into our disagreements. Our home is 1800 sq ft and the main bathroom is upstairs so there isn’t really a way to avoid her and she does require help with her TV her pills to be put out for her and meals to be made for her. She also cannot drive. I expressed to my husband I am unsure how much longer I can deal with her as she truly affects my mood and overall well being to which he responded that when we got married I agreed to take care of his mom so this is what it is. He came up with compromises like we use our money to get her a home health aide a few days a week which wouldn’t solve the problem of her constantly being in my space or getting a bigger house which wouldn’t solve the problem of having to care for her. I told him I think there is only so much I can deal with and I can’t promise i’ll stay if we continue on like this and he told me if he puts his mother into a home and something g happens to her he’ll never forgive me. She is only 56 body is perfect and I truly don’t think i can live like this for at least another 20 years and that I am the only one compromising she either stays in the house and i’m miserable or she leaves and he resents me and he said to me that he has to compromise too because I agreed to help him care for her but he does majority of his mothers care which is a compromise. Because of all she requires I am in full time nursing school but am also the person doing almost all of the child care and still having to deal with MIL on top of it. AITAH for wanting my house which we only lived in as a family for 2 months for just our family and to put MIL in a nursing home since she has no where else to go?