Me (30M) and my partner (29F) are getting married this year after ten years together. We've been engaged for three and have been planning the wedding together for the past few months. I love her, nothing will change that.

Yesterday we went shopping for wedding rings and it was great up until we started discussing the cost. To preface this, my mental health has currently been quite bad. I had some time off work last year and I'm slowly recovering but my self esteem is still bad and I have trouble working out what are reasonable things to get upset about.

My partners ring will cost about 400$. It'll be platinum the same as her engagement ring. I was hoping to get a gold ring and, thanks to Trump and my big hands, pushing up the cost of materials and the amount of material needed, It would be closer to 900$ for an 18ct gold ring.

The Jeweller floated the idea of a 9ct gold ring which would be closer to half the price. My partner is pushing for the cheaper of the two but I really like the idea of the 18ct ring for a variety of reasons:

Firstly, this is likely the only ring I would buy, and I don't want to think of cost as the primary reason for making the choice.

Secondly, I love the idea that this becomes an heirloom for my children, and I want it to be passed down through the family.

Thirdly, I like the idea that the ring will be marked time and look more weathered the more that I wear it.

This is wear my mental health comes into play and I'm wondering if I'm being overly sensitive or not:

My partner only considering the price tag is really affecting me. I don't want to be the only person in my life that thinks I deserve nice things. I want her to say that I'm worth the more expensive thing, and I the fact that this is bothering me makes me feel as if I'm being difficult and demanding.

I want to feel special as part of this wedding and I think that the ring is really important for me in that regard.

So AITAH?