Okay, I (29F) have been with my partner(27M) for 3 years (living together for 2) and I’m starting to think I want out. My partner is very sweet, thoughtful and supportive and all around a really great boyfriend but I just feel that we don’t have much in common. Our core values align really well but outside of that, we don’t really have any of the same interests and I often find it kind of disappointing that we can’t connect over any interests.

Another thing I’m struggling with is his family is very unsupportive of us being together because I’m not Christian (they’re super conservative and religious but my boyfriend and I are agnostic). On top of this my boyfriend gets super stressed out and shy/weird around my family so I am not able to hang out with my family with him around either. Family is so important to me and I really hate that I can’t bring my bf around my family cause he just makes it soo freaking awkward for everyone.

I also can’t really bring him to my work events because he gets all weird and awkward there too and I end up having to cater to him feeling comfortable instead of networking like I should be. So for this reason, I no longer bring him to work events either and will just make excuses on why he’s not there. I’m super extroverted and not shy so I feel like people expect my boyfriend to be as well but then he just stands there saying nothing instead and makes it soo weird 😭

I don’t know what to do to get over these hurtles. I’ve told him before that he needs to be able to talk to my mom at the very least and he’ll just make excuses about “the hierarchy of adult and parents in the church” and how it’s really stressful for him to talk to parents now. It’s really frustrating. My mom is super friendly, easy going and welcoming and he STILL won’t talk to her after three years.

So AITAH for letting these things bother me so much?

TLDR: My boyfriend makes social situations super awkward and I feel it’s negatively effecting my ability to bring him places with me. I want him to be a part of all aspects of my life but I don’t feel that’s possible.