Using fake names/throw away because of the fragility of the situation. My boyfriend Ted (27M) and I (25F) moved to a massive city with one of his best friends Piper (26F). Piper told us she was transitioning into a woman after 4 months of living together. I’m pointing that out now because she ran to their mutual good friend Tanner (at Tanner’s own bachelor party) and said we hated her because she’s trans. That was after 8 months of living us living together, and Piper had been a nightmare the whole time.

To start, Piper abused her dog. She got Jake after agreeing to move in with us, she didn’t ask if that’d be a problem for the move she just got the dog. We said nothing, but in the months before the move she didn’t train Jake. Ted and I ended up taking care of him most of the time while Piper worked (we were still job hunting early on). Sending Jake back to Piper’s mom was always an option btw. He didn’t have a solid poop the entire 3 months he was with us. He was terrified of being in a massive city, would poop all over himself trying to run back to the apartment, had accidents inside even pooped on the couch we brought. Piper didn’t walk him enough even only once a day at times, wouldn’t bathe him, had to take him to the vet for the pooping problems, even used Clorox wipes on his paws. I’m pretty sure those 3 months took multiple years off the tail end of this dog’s life. Extremely upsetting to watch, and we couldn’t take it anymore and told her to take Jake home. And we’ve heard her say she wanted to bring Jake back to the city, probably after we go our separate ways. Delusional. Jake belongs in a quiet area, not the biggest city in America. Piper also very disturbingly mishandled Ted’s sister’s cat in front of a whole room shortly after the Jake went home. Ted and I have thought about getting a cat, but after witnessing that we decided we’ll never let her be near our future fur babies.

Piper has also been a terrible roommate, even after months of us begging her to pull her weight. We did all the cleaning, shopping, and chores. She didn’t clean the toilet for the 1st time til 8 months in. And even then she used a sponge and then left it to dry on our tub for a week which is disgusting. I had to explain to a 26 y/o how to clean everything. I think it’s weaponized incompetence at this point, because she still used my shower sponge and grout tooth brush to clean the toilet a couple weeks later after I said to use Clorox wipes. Had to throw it all away again. The list of absolutely ridiculous things that this girl did is too long.

Ted and I have been begging Piper to do anything at all. She would eat the food we bought, drink our alcohol in the fridge, interrupt me in particular every time I spoke. She was rude, disrespectful, and at times scary. We would tell her constantly that we don’t hate her because she’s trans and then spell out exactly why we were having problems. The blow up that followed the bachelor trip was so intense and unhinged on her part that I was having Ted lock our bedroom door at night for a while.

The final straw for me was this weekend when I went into the living room and saw Piper sitting on the couch spread eagle, whole ball sack out on display. She started wearing booty shorts as soon as she came out to us and we never made it a problem, only said hey you’ve almost flashed us a lot can you be more aware? I’m struggling to see how she didn’t know her nuts were out, that’s how aggressive it was. I’ve never been more uncomfortable in my own home. The last 10 months came to a head for me and I want nothing to do with this girl after all of it. She’s so unaware and delusional that she actively tried to turn their friend group against Ted, who is the most compassionate and kind person I’ve ever known. Ted has kept so much of this to himself to keep peace in the friend group and not be an asshole to Piper, but now after our lease ends he plans on telling their friends everything. And in case it’s necessary to say, both of us are liberals, have always been progressive and have very progressive families. We are NOT transphobic. We just can’t take anymore of this girl. AITAH for wanting to cut her off completely when our lease ends?