so my friend, K, and I have been best friends for years. we met in a highschool class and have been in the same friendgroup for around the same amount of time. i swear our friendship was something youd see in a movie. we clicked instantaneously, and we literally act like the main character and a bestfriend in a sitcom (think rachel and monica from friends.

but recently, shes been breaching my boundaries and i have no clue on what to do with it. and a fair warning, some of the stuff said may be a TMI, and im gonna do this in a list format. this is going to be a very, VERY long list so im sorry in advance.

1. she has shunned numerous people for petty reasons, then shoves me in the middle to "diffuse it" because im "better than her at it" (direct quote). our most recent instance was only about a week ago. our mutual friend, and another one of our bests, C, has taken a liking to my cousin, H, who isnt the greatest person. K literally REFUSED to look C in the eyes and when i asked her about it, K said

"well, i dont like H, so now i dont like C" then got mad when i told her that was petty since C didnt do anything and her opiniosn dont control C.(she started speaking to me again just yesterday)

1. has bodyshamed me and her older brother, critisizing us for our sexualities and bodies. Her older brother and I are cool, not super tight but you get the picture. one day were all out to eat and we agreed on getting mozarella stick appetizers. K looks at us and said dead seriously "oh, you guys want all of that and food? im not sure even you two can do that...". shes also VERY aware of the fact that ive had an eating disorder since i was 12.

Her older brother is also gay, and im bi. she has made several backhanded remarks such as "why can you get a wife? i want a new friend" (to her brother) and "oh be careful, i dont want you crushing on me or anything" towards me. essentially very basic remarks people make to a gay person

there have also been other instances where im changing in the same room, usually just into a new shirt or into pajamas, and its a pretty jormal occurance to us. so its safe to say weve seen eachothers chests. one time, not too long ago, i was changing into a swimsuit and she walked jntk the bathroom (after knocking) to grab a brush and my chest was still out. im a pretty mid sized girl, not too chubby but definitely not skinny with a decent waist. shes a very skinny girl with a perfect body in about anyones eyes so as a given to our weights, my bra size is a D36, and shes an A34. as im trying to pull my one-piece swimsuit up over my shoulders, she looks at my boobs and just says "im sorry, why do they look like that? they sag but youre so young..." and left.

like i dont knkw if i need to describe the laws of gravity or what, bht i dont fucking know. and jow i dont change my bra without a shirt over it.

1. She has asked me to do favors that breach my personal boundaries. (this is where it may be a TMI, and i am talking about periods so if you dont like this topic skip this paragraph). before i jote this it may be important to note shes a virgin, and im not. K has been an avid pad user, and ive used tampons for as long as i can remember. she asked me why i liked tampons more, so i told her my reasonings. they were basic stuff like theyre comfier and you cant really feel them, etc. she then said she wanted to start using them, and i told her id buy her some tampons since she doesnt own one at all. she then told me shes never used one at all (out of fear) and that she doesnt even know where the hole is. i tried to describe it so she could find it but i started to get weirded out.

i told her that if she wants more details to ask her mom, because that should be the woman who teaches her. I didnt say it passive aggressively, but her mom already doesnt like me (no clue why) and i dont want her to see me as some sort of competition. then K looks me DEAD IN THE EYES and says "cant you just trail my finger down and show me? were close enough, you can show me and touch me to tell me."

HOLY SHIT?? thats kind of odd coming from someone who seems mortified of me having a crush on you since im bi and "like every woman" (another direct quote)...so clearly i said no. she got mad and said i wasnt a real friend and made me leave her house.

thats the major events summed up, but shes done other minor things that can fit into these categories. i talked to my friends, some mhtual and some not, and some have told me to drop her and some have told me no since itd ruin her. but staying friends is ruining me again and i have no clue what to do.