I (25F) have been dating my boyfriend (39M) for three months, and we’re in an ethically non-monogamous/polyamorous relationship. Communication has been great, but we recently hit a bump.

I’m a sex worker and started an OnlyFans last year, but I haven’t been very active on it. Bare minimum effort just to pay some of my rent. But I decided recently I want to actually be successful at it! My boyfriend is in tech and familiar with OF more than I, and so he has been helping me. After he visited me in LA this past weekend, (I moved here from Chicago about 1.5 months ago), I realized I don’t have enough boy/girl content of us to last until he visits again next month. During our weekly relationship check-in, I brought up the idea of filming content with hookups. He was taken aback because he thought of OnlyFans as our shared project, not just my thing.

He argued that the successful creators he subscribes to mainly make content with their boyfriends, while I pointed out that I have at least one paying fan who specifically wants bbc content. After a lengthy discussion, we agreed I could film with others, if they were fellow content creators, but he didn’t want it on my main feed—only sent through private messages for pay-per-view.

The next day, he sent me a ChatGPT analysis discussing whether it’s more lucrative to have a main partner or a rotating cast for content creation. I took away from it that to be successful in the bbc niche, I likely need a rotating cast, while he took it to mean either model could work as long as I post enough.

When we talked, we both came in wanting to break up. I suggested we might need to end things before one of us gets hurt. Ultimately, we decided we love each other too much to separate and agreed that I can do what I want (including filming with whoever, gangbangs, etc.) as long as I communicate openly and am gentle with his feelings and discomfort.

So, Reddit, AITA for wanting to explore my work and film with others, even if it complicates things in my relationship?