I need to fucking vent. I'll probably delete later so he doesn't see this. My (25F) boyfriend's (26M) family sucks. They have always looked down on me for my past, but yet my bf is an alcoholic and is trying to actively quit drinking and they enable the shit out of him and encourage him to drink. (I'm almost 3 years clean from hard drugs, I only smoke weed.) His mom is an INSANE helicopter parent. Like borderline in love with him. If he turns off his location or doesn't answer his phone, she crashes out and tells him crazy shit and says shit like she "always tries to chase him". His parents have never thought I was good enough despite the fact that I pay bills, work (I'm not a nurse or a fucking peace corp member so I'm trash), clean the house, and cook. I have tried and tried for a relationship with them, and a few months ago I actually snapped because I heard them over the ring camera at our home telling my bf that I'm "ghetto" and I'm "trash". I didn't say anything but the truth. It was strained for awhile and she wanted to "talk" after about a month, but the entire conversation was basically her telling me that I'm not what she wants for her son. I admit I'm not perfect, I struggle holding a job because of mental & health issues, but I have ALWAYS worked and I've never been unemployed for more than a few weeks. Anyway, they break boundaries CONSTANTLY. They pull up to his house without calling, insert themselves where they weren't needed, and his mom watches him on snap maps and texts him out of the blue and asks where he's going. She constantly makes demeaning comments to me, smart ass remarks, gives me dirty looks, and whispers about me while I'm literally sitting at the same table. That's not even all of it, but I'm on vacation and I've had a few drinks so I can't think of anything else super important. Anyway, we took a cruise this week. This vacation was originally to celebrate my 3 years sober & celebrated our anniversary as well. He went to ask his parents a question bc they cruise a lot, and they decided we were all booking rooms right next to each other and that they were also inviting 5 other people. Which like, whatever. All I asked was that we'd ride by ourselves and he promised me he would, and then told his dad he could ride with us. He backseat drove the entire time he wasn't asleep, and we couldn't stop anywhere I wanted to stop because he'd bitch about it. I figured we'd do our own thing because that's what my bf told me we were doing, but that was fucking wrong. Yesterday was awful. They didn't want to do anything I wanted to do, and when my bf said we were definitely going out (Bourbon Street) and we would Uber, they decided that they would come with us and hang out with us. Idk about y'all, but I'm not trying to hang out with some 50+ year olds on Bourbon. I'm just not, despite the fact that his mom sucks. They dictates the entire time and refused to go into bars I wanted to go to, and I ended up way too drunk because I was upset. That wasn't the only thing that upset me, but it's the only thing worth explaining I guess. We boarded the ship today and I've been alone 90% of it because I don't even really drink fr (hence why I ended up so piss drunk) and all they want to do is sit at the bar and drink. Which, again, would be fine but my bf has literally spent about an hr total of the day with me, despite the fact that he assured me multiple times that we'd enjoy our vacation. I'm probably being a baby, but aside from the obvious that I don't want to be around people who hate me, I don't enjoy bars really and I don't enjoy the same things they do. My bf decided he wanted to hang out with them, and left me alone and now doesn't understand what he did. I just feel like it's a constant battle because I always get put on the back burner for their feelings or what they want to do. He doesn't know how to set boundaries and say no. Anytime I get upset, he says "I can't win, it's always a lose/lose". I definitely get it's hard, but I'm not asking him to cut them off. I just wanna be chosen and be a priority every once and awhile. They're all so close I just feel so left out all the time. I don't feel like I ask for a lot, I just want to be included and do things I like to do too. I love my bf so much and I genuinely want to marry him, but I don't know if I can be second best to his family for the rest of my life. I'm just stuck because I constantly say the same thing over and over again, but it's just not clicking in his head. I don't want to keep beating a dead horse because like, if he doesn't understand after 30 times why would he care after 35? I feel so unimportant and like I really don't matter. It's all trivial shit but it adds up. So, AITAH here or am I justified in my feelings? TD;LR- My bfs parents hate me and they're taking over what was supposed to be a celebration vacation for me.

S/N- Sorry for the book, believe it or not I've condensed it down. 😅😅

Edited to add that we've been together for almost 2 years but we talked for an entire year before we met in person, and I moved to be with him in October after being long distance for over a year because of some legal shit I had going on from past mistakes.