This is a long one, but stay with me. I’m adding important context. I am a 43 year old mother of two. I got married for the first time at 18, had my daughter at 20. Fast forward 6 years, and I am divorced and remarried to my current husband. We have a son together. My son is 11. I have been taking care of husbands and babies since I was 18. My husband and I have been planning for our future after my son is grown. We have all these plans to travel, move to the country, etc. My daughter is 22, with an 18 month old daughter. I’m a grandma! I warned her when she moved in with her boyfriend at 18 to be careful, especially since they were financially unstable. I also told her that I had no desire to be a grandmother, and I wanted to live my life for me once my children are grown. Now that she has a daughter, she expects me to keep her all the time, and thinks I should help more than I do. We do help them financially, and I have watched my granddaughter when my daughter has appointments, etc. But, I recently bought a new vehicle, I started taking classes to start a new career, and am looking for a remote job. All of these changes are in preparation for my husband and my future as empty nesters. My son (as of right now) says he never wants to marry or have kids. AITAH for wanting to finally live my life for me once my children are grown? It’s a contentious issue between my daughter and I, and I fear it will only get worse.