📝 AITAH for wanting to sleep in my own bed even tho it could prevent arguments?

By trashc4nz • Score: 1 • April 23, 2025 10:09 PM


I (f16) am not allowed to sleep in my own bedroom and have not been for years. My mom is attached, easily riled, extremely protective, and anxiety ridden. She can be nice but its like she has these instant switches between hugging me and making me cry. Its like whatever I do I cant get a break she gets upset if i talk to her too long, make a certain face, stay quiet too long, dont do what she says while shes literally in the middle of saying it. So for those reasons we have arguments a lot like almost everyday mostly at night (it has died down for now thankfully) and when this happens i know that i sometimes think things i would rather not in the moment so i like to go cool or sleep it off by myself. Problem is she will not let me leave the room shes in and if i try she just screams at me or says shell whoop me so i end up crying or breaking down right in a dark ocean of not so kind thoughts beside her in bed while she slides little remarks or keeps trying to argue. I really want to space myself but its so hard to because we are always around eachother and i really do think me finally sleeping in my own room might help but ive been trying for years and its always a no, even my other family members think its time to sleep in my own room. Im asking this here cause idk where else to and she always makes it seem like im an asshole and says remarks like i give her too much stress and if i still want her to be here or stuff that basically means im killing her.

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