Hi this is my first time posting so I'm not sure if I'm doing this right or posting in the right place also I'm using a throwaway account. So as the title says I 17F am starting to see my boyfriend 17M red flags and I'm not really sure what to do. For context we have a long distance relationship that has been going on for around 6 month now. At first it was great he first approached me in a social video game and would follow me like a little puppy dog, he would also initiate every interaction, and compliment me non stop. So when he asked me out I said yes because he was a very green flag at that point. We would FaceTime non stop and even have 10+ hour calls daily, not to mention he would send me paragraph messages of how he loves me. And to be fair I really like him he's tall, funny, and we enjoy some of the same shows and movies. And then we start talking about our past relationships and I have told him about how my last ex would flat out ignore me for months on end until I broke up with him (my current bf is my 2nd bf) and he's told me about all his previous girlfriends, the one he broke up with to be with me, 3 of the 18 year olds he dated, and his one ex who kept on cheating on him and tried to get back with him after finding out we were dating. So unlike him I have really no experience dating, so I believe I have been too forgiving. And then we started talking about our families and I really love my family and value that in a partner, so when he told me about his abusive father and bad relationship with his family it gave me mixed vibes. But I thought it wasn't that big of a red flag so I just let it go but my whole family knows of him and how we have met however he lied to his friends about how we met and his family has no clue I even exist. And as we got out of our honeymoon phase I've noticed how I would have to initiate every single text, the FaceTimes would stop, and he has started talking more rudely towards me but says he's just hazing me. If I'm watching something while on the phone with him (he's doing some car stuff and I'm just coloring) he would say that's annoying and tell me to stop, so I would just put in headphones. I would watch whatever he want to but he refuses to watch what I want like when it was Valentine's Day I had to beg him to watch something with me, he also makes fun of my music taste. On holidays and birthdays I would spend $100s of dollars on gifts that I knew he would love like on his birthday I got him some legos that were $200 because I knew he really wanted it so when it came to my birthday I was super excited to see what he got me and I don't really need expensive gifts just something from the heart you know so you could have seen my expression when I found out he got me nothing and after him saying "idk what to get you" and "idk what you like" I finally just told him my favorite flowers and 2 weeks after my birthday he door dashed me flowers and I loved it. Also when it came to Valentine's Day he never asked me to be his valentine until I told him like a few hours before midnight that it hurt my feelings that he never asked me he went on to say "well you ruined the surprise and could have waited a bit I was going to ask you but now it feels like your demanding me to and now it's a chore" and this caused me to feel really bad and so I apologize (I was most likely at fault here I could have probably just waited a little bit longer). And not to mention he has to always be right I can't even say a small thing that was false that wouldn't hurt a person with out a full lecture from him. And don't get me wrong we have talked about these things before but he never changes. Now here is my biggest dilemma in a few months he is coming down to stay with me for a few weeks, and I'm not sure if I should wait and meet him in person or say he shouldn't or break up with him. I have no clue at all and I'm sad just writing this because I really like this boy a lot but he's made me so mad at points that I just don't want to pick up the phone anymore. So would I be the ahole if I broke up with him and/or what should I do in this situation.