My little sister (24) just got engaged today. All she did was send a photo and ask when we were free.

You see… my family situation is weird. For context we are Asian. Not physically or verbally affectionate with each other in the family (mom and dad included). Broken family (parents divorced)

She’s always despised me for some reason. Because I believed in her future and I wanted to instill discipline in her when we were left to raise her when she was 13. Everyone in the family spoils her or lets her get away easily because she’s the baby of the family. No one thought about good practices to help her growth until she was an adult (18). Only I cared, but I was the next youngest in the family. No one believed me. So when she Was 22 I asked for her to start helping to pay Bills because 1. It would be nice to have someone help me. And she was living at the house. 2. She needs to learn How to be responsible. These bills were literally not going to be more than $600…… All in all, I was the bad person for having expected a damn adult to help and be responsible. My mom scolded me. I stood up for myself and questioned the unfair treatment. Because At the end of the day I got the short end of the stick. She doesn’t even help clean the house, pay for anything, take out the damn trash, Wash the damn dishes…..

Fast forward to today. She’s supposed to be living at home with me but unofficially moved with her boyfriend and her boyfriend’s family. But whenever mom’s in town she’ll come home and act like she’s always lived there. When in fact, she doesn’t. She’s never come home prior… even when she knew that there was a peeping Tom - our next door neighbor to us (we live in the ghetto) - and it was scary to be a woman alone living in the house or going in and out of the house. She never checked on me. Never came home to be mindful I’m a single woman who will be left alone in the house if she’s not there. She’s only started to help pay bills the past year(?) after getting a job. But even then, I have to ask her for money. She won’t be home to help with anything or care about my safety.

She just told us she’s engaged. I’m not happy… I feel like I could care less. She didn’t care about me and my safety, my well being (financially or physically). She’s only taken from me and never reciprocated back in any mindful manner.

AITAH if I don’t care for her engagement and don’t wish her a “congratulations”? I’m so done and over with my family. I’ve given myself to them over and over. All those sacrifices only to realize, I’m damn stupid for having been the only one to try and care and sacrifice. While my financial and mental health went down hill, theirs weren’t even affected and they continued to increase in their financial and mental well being.

Some might think I’m petty. But it’s actually just not caring. But tell me honestly, AITAH?