Hi - long time listener, first time caller. I have this friend, Joy, who I’ve been pretty close with for about 5 years. I consider her one of my best friends. She has a husband, Tony, who I’ve never been a fan of. I’ve never shared this with Joy, but I think he is extremely toxic, immature and selfish. Joy is truly such a kind person and deserves so much better, in my opinion. Every time Joy and I hang out, she shares stories about Tony’s latest shenanigans and it honestly just makes me cringe. Anyway, Tony had this really good job where my mom also happens to work. Additionally, Joy’s sister, Anna, works with my husband. Well, the other day, Anna told my husband that Tony up and quit his job last week “because he was sick of it”. Now, this didn’t really come as a surprise to me as that is 100% Tony’s character, despite being the primary breadwinner of their family and that job providing insurance for both Tony and Joy. So when I was at my parents’ house on Easter, I casually mentioned to my mom about Tony having quit the job. When I said that, she gave me this look. She’s in management over there, so I knew it wasn’t really appropriate for her to say, but I received the message. He did not quit, he was let go. But why would Anna tell my husband that Tony had quit? The thought that Tony lied to Joy made my blood boil. He’s just the worst. I value the friendship I have with Joy and that’s why I’ve kept my feelings about Tony to myself, to avoid any resentment or hard feelings. After all, she loves him and I really don’t have to deal with him much. But I’ll see Joy tomorrow for our regular hang out, and I’m positive that she’ll share with me about Tony’s job situation. MAYBE he did tell Joy that he was let go and they told Anna that he had quit to avoid embarrassment/judgement from her family. But if it turns out that he did lie to her, would I be the AH if I told her the truth?