I posted the post below in a group for dry eyes. I got a totally bitchy response from someone and I went off. I’m not actually asking IATAH cuz I already know I am and I don’t care. I just felt the need to share anyway cuz at the very least, im def not the ONLY AH.

ENJOY! ——

ORIGINAL POST:

TITLE: Make-up Recs?

I have such dry eyes I’ve gone almost blind, my eyes are alwaaays red from vascularization, and I wear scleral lenses i have to rinse many times throughout the day. So, what to do?

I need reallly good eye make up thst won’t budge, covers reaallly well, and doesn’t irritate or dry. Ideas? There are a few things I do like but I could use extra recs.

THE REPLY I’d think the priority would be to not wear any makeup vs vanity (which many of us who haven’t even almost gone blind or eyes aren’t always red have smartly chosen.)

This with all due respect

MY REPLY

Well, when you have tissue sliced out of your mouth and layered over the tissue in your eyes via a very invasive, painful graft surgery that leaves you disfigured, yes, it’s a priority. It’s a priority to help people who are otherwise so uncomfortable looking at you that they’d rather look awkwardly at the floor. It’s a priority when you’re trying to pitch a multi-million dollar partnership in a board meeting and all anyone can focus on is the second set of eyelids that have been gruesomely stitched over the first set. My guess is that you don’t realize it’s a priority to hide the swelling from where doctors stuck your eyeballs with needles without anesthetic before you go back to the office so people don’t think you were in a fight or fell down a set of stairs.

Know when else it’s a priority?

It’s a priority when you’re already being told you’re the best candidate for the job but for reasons “outside of their control,” the company has to move “in another direction.” It’s a priority at a school event so that your children don’t come to you, AGAIN, crying because all of their friends keep asking them what’s wrong with their mommy and won’t leave them alone. It’s a priority when you’re trying to look normal so your husband will stop fucking women who wouldn’t hold a candle to you if you didn’t have an eye problem.

But here’s when it’s really a priority.

It’s a priority to look as normal as possible in front of your mother so you don’t keep breaking her heart; And when you’re trying to date so you’re not alone for the rest of your life; And when you’re in court trying to look normal because your ex is using your eyesight against you to get full custody of your kids so he doesn’t have to pay child support.

It’s not vanity. It’s a PRIORITY.

So, please, don’t lecture me about priorities because I guarantee that you have no idea what that means. You’ve never had to prioritize your “vanity,” over the amount of pain you’ll be in later for the sake of your children or your livelihood. The choice you’ve made wasn’t smart, it was easy, and you have a luxury not everyone else has.

Next time, maybe “smartly,” choose not to open your mouth in such a patronizing way against a woman who has seen far more hardship than you. I actually laughed at you’re reply because you’re nothing more than a joke.

This…”with all due respect.”