hey again guys, i’d like to say this is NOT MY STORY. this post is for my boyfriend. since i got so many lovely responses yesterday i figured id help him out with this issue he’s having. i got permission to post!!! for reference my boyfriend is 22, a college student, working full time, and is planning to move out ASAP but that has been postponed by all of this bullshit.

so his mom works as a doordash / uber driver. meaning she drives as her full time job, full 8-10 hour days, every day. in june 2024 her car broke down and she didn’t have enough to fix it so she asked to borrow his car in the meantime. “i can’t make money without your car, and then your siblings will be homeless, won’t be able to eat, ill be kicked onto the street.” he agreed to let her borrow it. he was home for summer, but at this point in time his brother and him were going to school 5 hours away. since summer had just started he agreed.

then fall semester came around, and she still didn’t want to give it back, so he went back to school with his brother. it was only that his brother did classes online and only needed to be at that school a few days a week for football, but my boyfriend needed to be there 5 days a week. there was an issue with the apartment they were supposed to rent, etc, so they would stay in his brothers car. but again his brother didn’t need to be at that school as much as my boyfriend did, and he wanted to go home on his free days.

so my boyfriend ended up homeless 5 hours away from home, going days without eating or drinking anything, sleeping on a bench in the school. he had no car so that meant this entire time he hasn’t been able to work. this happened for months. his mother still wouldn’t give him the car back so he could have somewhere to sleep while he was in school.

he transferred to a school back home after fall semester, so now he has a much safer living situation and a reliable source of food. majority of the time he stays with me anyway because 1. obviously we’re dating and 2. this shit is so damaging to his mental health. anyway she still had the car. my mom and i were able to help him get a very good job at the hospital she works at, and he ensured his mom knew once he started he needed the car back. “well then i can’t make money and your siblings will be homeless, won’t be able to eat, ill be kicked onto the street.” it wasn’t until he began asking her for rides to school 5 days a week, and to work for 40+ hours a week, that she got irritated and gave it back to him and made it a sudden priority to get her own car back in good shape.

only for a short period of time. she’s run her car into the ground with driving it 24/7 for years and little to no maintenance. so she asked for his car again. “i can’t make money and your siblings will be homeless, won’t be able to eat, ill be kicked onto the street.” that bullshit again. he angrily let her have it. mind you this began june 2024, and it’s now april 2025.

ALMOST A YEAR.

well his car died. it’s done. it won’t work anymore.

so now he needs rides again for 5 days a week for school and 40 hours of a work week since he is trying to save up to get a new one.

this all brings us back to the point - she is now insistent that she deserves gas money for driving him all the time. he thinks he doesn’t owe her gas money since the only reason he needs rides is to save for a new car since she ruined his car.

i think some perspective from objective strangers would be helpful on this one, so if there’s any opinions or advice please let us know.