I (f20) older sister (f28) just got back from visiting her boyfriend and his family in Chicago . She came back and asked me what I would think if I moved with them. I currently live with them here in Kansas. I told her I would be excited cause I've always wanted to leave Kansas and live in another state. She told me they still have to talk about it but it's going to happen.

I can't live with my other sister (f27) cause I don't like her boyfriend at all. I called the cops on him yesterday for hitting me and my sister. And I can't exactly stay with my other older sister (f26) either cause we don't exactly get along. So I'm pretty much abandon. My sister (f28) doesnt want me to live with our parents cause they both suck aswell.

I told her I'm considering it but I will mostly likely go. My 2 other older sisters are furious with me not asking them if I should go. They act like I'm not an adult who can't make her own decisions and it pisses me off. I told them they have no right in my business since they abandoned me. Now both of my parents are saying I'm an asshole for also leaving them. And I do feel like an asshole but my mental health isnt doing so good. And I feel like leaving the state I was born and raised in might help me. I've always wanted to leave kansas and now I get the chance to.

I get the chance to be there for my sister and her newborn baby and her 3 other kids. I do feel like I'm completely abandoning my other sisters but me and my (f28) sister feel like this is the right move for all of us. I appreciate that she hasn't abandoned me and her boyfriend was the one who brought it up. Saying it's a good move for us all.

So am I the asshole for considering leaving Kansas and going to Chicago? Or should I stay here and be there for my other sisters?