I (27f) had been dating my ex (33m) for a year and a half when i decided to call it quits. When we were together he was somewhat unreliable and forgetful which i found exhausting because not only did he forget details about shared experiences but also important appointments. When we started dating, i was aware that he had MS but it didn’t bother me until he had an episode where his right arm and leg went numb which really scared me but i tried to be as supportive and positive as possible. He recovered from it and was fine but he doesnt take his health seriously since then and that stressed me alot. Long story short, a year went by, we argued alot and eventually called it quits. We have been talking in the last couple months and he has apologised and promised to be better but i am still very worried about our future. We always planned on having twins and relocating to a new country but i am so worried he might get overwhelmed again ( he mentioned a job change as being the reason as to why he was emotionally absent in the relationship before)

Am i am the asshole for thinking he wont be able to handle the responsibility of being in a long term relationship ? P.s he doesn’t take any initiative and always waits to be told what to do which was another reason for the breakup